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We all understand that relationships are complicated, that communication is important, that men and women have different wants, needs, and desires that they bring to the table when entering a monogamous relationship…

What we don’t always understand, though, is the fundamental nature of those we are interested in and the best ways that we can connect with them, learn about them, and love them.

Now, of course, each individual person is different and unique, and must be treated as such. Just because one person feels valued by a certain action, doesn’t mean another person will.

That being said, there are some valuable life lessons that I’ve found to be universal truths over the years. Ways to understand others on a deeper level and, as a result, build richer, deeper, and more meaningful connections with them.

Men, of course, have a reputation for not understanding women (nor seeking to). Those who fall into this stereotype find themselves frustrated, confused, and disillusioned when it comes to their intimate relationships. Their level of true connection with their partner is limited, as they don’t (or won’t) fully understand their wants and needs, even if it’s being directly communicated.

In this article, we’ll discuss valuable — some may say necessary — lessons for a man to strive to learn if he hopes to maintain a healthy, happy, monogamous relationship with a female human.

1: Being a good man is a strength, not a weakness.

Men have been conditioned for generations…dare I say centuries to believe that “nice guys finish last.” The key here is in the terminology itself, and what we really mean when we repeat this cliche’ over and over again.

In the most common context, the term “nice guy” is referring to someone who is, in reality, a people pleaser.

He bends over backwards for everyone around him, he sacrifices his own values and morals if it means being socially accepted, he lives his life on everyone else’s terms because he thinks that’s the only way people will actually like him.

As a result, he’s just sort of…there. Molding himself to the world around him, not really building or maintaining his own identity. It’s no surprise then, that most people don’t even know who he really is. Hell, he doesn’t even know who he really is!

Naturally, this type of guy has a hard time maintaining relationships, building a life of fulfillment, or pursuing professional or personal success. He doesn’t have the internal strength or clarity of self in order to do any/all of the above.

That is the plight of the “nice guy.”

A good man, though, has strength of character. He is clear on his values, his morals, his beliefs, his code. He lives in accordance with what he feels is right and wrong, and doesn’t sacrifice what’s important to him for the sake of social or intimate approval.

As a result, he holds himself (and the people around him) to a far higher standard than the “nice guy” does.

This is where the two differ:

The nice guy will sacrifice his values for social approval.

The good man will sacrifice social approval for his values.

One type of man is attractive, the other is not. Can you guess which is which?

2: She doesn’t care what you say if it conflicts with what you do.

A lot of men are so concerned about projecting the image of a certain personality or lifestyle that they forget to actually make it a reality.

They’re so busy “selling themselves” on dates or in social situations that they’re not thinking about what happens when that person actually does get interested and starts to get to know him…they’ll find out, eventually, that it was all talk and no substance behind it.

Women are perceptive and intuitive, they can tell if something is “off” and they’ll distance themselves because of it.

What she’s really looking for is how you’ve been living your life before she came along.

How do you show up in your community? How do you treat your employees or customers? How do you treat the people around you that you’re not trying to impress? What have your patterns been like?

If your words and actions are maligned, she’ll notice it.

Subsequently, if the life you’ve built reinforces and is constructed upon the values that you say you have, she will know that you’re honest and live with integrity.

The words mean nothing without the actions to back them up.

3: Things have to move at their own pace.

When I was younger, I had a 100% failure rate with dating. It wasn’t until my twenties that I really began to understand the principles behind attraction and connection, even though I grew up in a healthy, stable, and loving family environment.

As a result, I’d latch on to any amount of interest I got, and hold onto it too tight for fear of it disappearing.

Of course, these very actions are the ones that pushed people away, leaving me even more confused.

What I learned over time is that attraction, love, affection, adoration — none of it can be manufactured or rushed before it is ready.

It must have space to breathe.

It must be allowed to evolve on its own.

It must move at its own pace and develop naturally, over time.

Men who are too anxious about forming a relationship will rush through the steps because they figure once they’re at step 4, or 5, or 6 — they’ll be committed and she won’t leave.

The reality is that rushing to those steps will only knock the entire relationship off balance and it’ll fall apart before you even get there.

Sometimes, the easiest way to lose someone is to want them too badly.

4: TRUE intimacy is emotional BEFORE it is physical.

This one causes mass confusion among the men because we experience intimacy in different ways than women do.

Generally speaking, men need physical intimacy in order to feel emotional closeness.

Generally speaking, women need emotional closeness in order to desire physical intimacy.

One can easily see how these two realities coming together can present challenges. One person will be “feeling it” sooner than the other in a different way.

As a man, I can attest to the strength of the physical “pull” that we feel.

As a married man, however, I know that real intimacy is emotional. It’s based on connection. Openness. Communication. Safety.

These feelings will cultivate and strengthen the physical connection.

Without them, the physical desire can wane as well. Two people who don’t feel safe, or connected, or “seen” by each other may very well lose their physical spark as a result.

Physical attraction, as strong and real as it is, is heavily influenced by emotional intimacy, whether or not men are willing to admit it.

5: The small things really do matter the most.

Some pithy adages stick around for so long because, well, they’re true. And, this is one of them.

Why is it, though, that the small things matter most?

I believe the reason the small things are so powerful is that they require a level of effort and attention to detail that cannot be manufactured or faked.

Anyone can go out and buy a ton of gifts for a special occasion.

Anyone can perform a grand romantic gesture on Valentine’s Day.

Anyone can “do the big things” when the occasion calls for it.

What about, though, when there is no occasion?

What about when you do something special on a random Tuesday just because you were thinking of her?

What about when you offer to run that errand, or have dinner prepared, or go pick up the kids because she was slammed at work?

What about remembering the small details about a day that’s important to her, and marking the occasion in a meaningful way?

Those things only happen when you pay honest and true attention to her and what makes her unique.

Those are the building blocks that form trust that you’ll be there for the big things. If she can’t trust you with the small things, she certainly won’t be able to count on you for the big things either.

6: Your personal insecurities are your own responsibility, as are hers.

We all have things we’re insecure about. For some, it’s appearance. For others, it’s financial success. For others still, it’s rooted in being accepted, or feeling worthy of love, or professional performance.

No matter what it is that we each feel insecure about, those insecurities can only be addressed by ourselves.

Sure, someone else can shower you in compliments, or tell you everything you want to hear, or love you in ways that you don’t even feel that you deserve…

Those things can all be genuine and real, and you can still feel the same way about yourself…why?

Because INsecurities must be solved from within, as well. They are your responsibility to acknowledge and manage, and you cannot (should not) put the responsibility on her to relieve them for you.

Conversely, her insecurities are not your job to “fix,” either. You should be there to support her, and encourage her, and remind her of all of her points of greatness — but don’t get frustrated if she has a hard time believing you. She must feel it within herself in order for it to be real.

This isn’t a “her” thing, it’s a “human” thing, because all of us struggle with it in our own ways at our own times. The only universal truth of it is that we all feel it along the journey of life.

7: She still wants you to “be the man.”

When I make this point it usually comes along with more cheers than it does jeers.

We live in a world where (Finally, thankfully, rightfully) equality reins supreme. We must respect, cherish, and value each other equally as human beings — no matter what our race, gender, ethnicity, socioeconomic background, or sexual orientation is.

What we shouldn’t do (in my opinion) is to confuse being equal with being the same.

We are not the same and that is what makes the world a beautiful place to live. The variety, the uniqueness, the beauty in the human experience that we all bring to the table in our own ways.

This reality shines brightly in our intimate relationships. If you’ve got a heterosexual man and woman forming a romantic connection, there are biologically different desires and needs they’re both going to have.

Sure, it’s socially progressive for women to ask men out, and even to propose (one of my friends did that, they’re happily married now).

I do believe though, generally speaking, if you asked women if they’d prefer to be the pursuer or to be pursued — most would rather be pursued.

Likewise, most men would rather do the pursuing.

Flame me in the comments if you must, but I believe this to be true.

It follows, then, that similar preferences perpetuate themselves into the relationship. Being romantic, planning dates, caring for each other in our own ways, initiating intimacy…

Many men make the argument that they don’t think women still want “men to be men” because women are planting their flags in society. They’re outperforming men in the workplace and in higher education. They’re out-earning men…how, then, do they still want men to step up to the plate romantically?

Because none of this affects our human biology. It doesn’t change a woman’s desire to be pursued romantically, nor does it change a man’s desire to pursue her.

She can run the show in the boardroom all day and still want to be swept into the bedroom when she gets home. The two areas of life are not the same.

Remember, equality is not sameness. We’d be well-served as a progressive civilization to keep that in mind.

8: She wants substance over success.

“James, women only want men for their money!”

…Usually said by men who don’t have enough money for women to want them for.

But, I digress…

The truth is that women are looking for men who have a lot more to offer than just a fat wallet.

See point #7 above — women are outpacing and out-earning men at every turn. Why, then, would they be looking for a “sugar daddy” if it means taking a pay cut?

What they want is a teammate. A man who has ambition, drive, passions, purpose, and a firm sense of who he is and what he stands for.

A woman who’s pursuing her own goals and dreams needs to be with a man who operates on an even playing field so they can understand each other.

They can operate as a team together. They’ll share a similar set of values and ethics. They’ll be able to communicate, collaborate, give, and receive input from each other.

Whether you’ve already “made it” or are working towards it, whatever “it” looks like for you…takes a backseat to what kind of person you’re becoming in the process. That’s what she’s really looking for.

9: She’s not always looking for a solution.

“James, if she tells me about a problem or complains to me, she wants me to help her solve it.”

*Buzzer noise*

The correct answer is: She might just want you to sit and listen while she vents and figures it out herself.

As men, our tendency is to immediately spring into “problem solving mode.” We want to be helpful, we want to contribute, and we want to feel useful. These are the times that we feel like we’re bringing value to our partner’s life, which is great!

The truth is, though, that might not always be what she wants or needs.

At times, she just wants you to be supportive and let her talk through something. Listen. Engage. Respond. Ask how you can help.

The key is not to just assume she’s looking for an answer. IF she is, though, she’ll ask for one.

10: She wants you to have a life outside of the relationship.

Here’s another thing I used to do when I was a teenager before I understood relationships — I’d think that we had to spend every waking moment together because, if I’m being honest, I had a constant fear of being forgotten or abandoned if I wasn’t in direct line of sight.

Decades later, it sounds silly, but it felt very real in the moment and, as I’ve heard from private clients, not everyone grows out of this mindset.

Some men (typically of the anxious attachment variety) will feel that their best bet of winning a woman over is to, well, revolve their entire life around her.

He’ll start to sacrifice his passions, hobbies, and even his own dreams and goals in an effort to show her “how serious” he is about the relationship.

He’ll stop spending time with friends and doing the things he loves. He’ll always be trying to be in her presence.

Let me be clear about something here — of course, life changes when we get into a relationship. Some things we did when we were single are no longer appropriate or acceptable, and should be ceased.

That’s not what I’m talking about here, though.

What effectively happens with the above illustration is that a man will end up throwing away some of the very things that drew a woman to him in the first place.

For example, if she loved that you play the Ukulele on the weekends down at the local gastropub, but you’ve stopped practicing and performing to spend more time with her — you’ve given up a piece of yourself that she really liked, which could risk lowering her level of attraction to you rather than enhancing it.

She wants you to be well-rounded, my friend. She wants you to do the things you love, to live a life of passion, to be a happy, stable, and productive person and partner.

11: She needs you to trust her and her independence in return.

Let’s not pretend that point #10 (or any point in this article) can only go one way and actually be effective.

You can’t go off and do the things that you love while simultaneously questioning and being suspicious of everything that she does.

Healthy relationships are best comprised of two healthy people. Two individuals that come together and intertwine their lives. Two people who maintain their own identities while walking the same path together.

This is where trust shines through. Neither of you do something that makes the other uncomfortable. Neither of you keep secrets. Neither of you lie about what you’re doing or who you’re with.

You both need to have full faith in each other and you both need to honor that faith without betraying it. In doing so, you won’t need to “complete” each other, but love and accept each other completely.

12: There is no “part time” commitment. You’re in, or you’re out.

Any woman who’s looking to build a solid and stable future with a man needs to know that he’s all in.

She’s envisioned this future. She’s imaged you as a husband, a life partner, and maybe even a father (if she/you decide to have children).

She’s thought about what the next 5, 10, or 30 years may be like.

She cannot be having these thoughts and visions with a guy who’s just moseying along, figuring things out as he goes.

I’m not saying you need to have all of the answers right now — none of us really do — but to be fully committed to the process, walking the path together, taking the next step together — is essential.

You don’t need to map out going from point A to Z together, but building a solid foundation from A to B will give you strong footing to grow into C, D, and all of the rest.

You both need to put in equal effort and commitment to earn each other’s emotional investment. Otherwise, one person will always be left feeling undervalued or unappreciated.

13: Communicating is a skill — learn it.

We all know that men are notorious for being lousy communicators. Whether it be failing to remember things, or being unwilling to communicate feelings and emotions, our reputation (or lack thereof) precedes us.

I believe that this is largely a product of our social conditioning.

Reverting back to our conversation in point #7 about biological realities, it is true that men are “wired” to be worse at communicating than women. The “communication center” in our brain is substantially smaller, and we’re not as well equipped to express ourselves effectively.

That, however, is no excuse.

Communication is a skill. Taking the time and putting in the work to understand ourselves and others is a worthwhile venture that will yield exponential dividends in life and in love.

It’ll strengthen your relationships, help you to be more productive and respected at work, and help to avoid and solve conflict in all areas of life.

There is simply no downside to learning to become a better communicator.

14: Trust takes years to build but only seconds to break.

This point speaks for itself. Trust will remain strong, stable, and sturdy for as long as it is consciously maintained by two people. One instance of betrayal, though — can tear it all down, no matter how long it’s been sustained previously.

15: You must BOTH love and accept each other as you are today, while supporting the journeys into who you’ll grow into.

Life is dynamic. Humans are ever-changing. Every moment of the day (quite literally) we are changing on a molecular level. We’re experiencing new things, learning new lessons, making decisions, changing our mindsets, growing and evolving…

When you bring two people together in an intimate setting with the prospect of staying together forever, this comes with the understanding that massive change is bound to happen over the coming decades.

Some change will be intentional and good. Other change will be unpredictable and possibly not so good.

Commitment, though, makes the pledge to be there through it all.

It says “I see you today as you are. I love you, accept you, and embrace you — and I dedicate myself to supporting your growth into the future.”

When we, ourselves, commit to growing and evolving, it gives us the ability to grow alongside our partner.

We grow as individuals, and also as a couple.

We maintain the space necessary for expansion.

We don’t restrict, we don’t hold back, we don’t discourage or suppress.

We plant the seeds of personal development and water them together. We may not know how those plants will blossom over the years, but we do know that they will grow over the years.

Witnessing and experiencing that mutual growth alongside another person is what makes the relationship beautiful.

You don’t just fall in love with one person for the rest of your life — no — that’s not what monogamy is.

Monogamy and real love is rooted in falling in love with the same person over and over again.

Each new phase of them — each new phase of you — is a chance to fall…no…grow into a new phase of love together.

Understand that, and the “honeymoon phase” of your relationship will last for the rest of your lives.

Source: James Michael Sama is an internationally recognized speaker, author, and personal development coach.

Finding success in creating hundreds of viral articles and videos on building limitless confidence and healthier relationships, James has accumulated over 39 million visitors to his website and a collective social media following of over 400,000.

James speaks at live events and in the media across the U.S. and has become a go-to expert with outlets such as CNN, Bravo, The New York Post, The Huffington Post, The Daily Beast, CNBC, The Boston Globe, CBS, and more.

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Why Do Couples Stop Having Sex? Top 12 Common Reasons




Intimacy in marriage is a vital cog in the smooth running of a relationship. When sex and intimacy leave a marriage, your mind can’t help but go to the darkest place and worry that your partner no longer finds you attractive or is having an affair.

This begs the question, can a sexless marriage survive?

While sex is not the most defining factor in relationship happiness, sex and intimacy missing in your marriage can lead to serious relationship issues like anger, infidelity, communication breakdown, lack of self-esteem, and isolation – all of which can ultimately lead to irreparable damage to the relationship, ending in divorce.

Read this article to find out why do couples stop having sex and understand the sexual dynamics of relationships better:

Why do couples stop having sex? Top 12 reasons

The following are some common reasons why intimacy goes missing from a marriage.

Take an honest look at your relationship and see if any of these ring true. They just may help you to understand key reasons for intimacy missing in your marriage and get back on track to bring intimacy back into your marriage.

1. Immense stress

Women, in particular, find it hard to believe that stress could impact a man’s sexual desire. If you are looking for a way to fix the intimacy missing in your marriage, you must slay the biggest culprit in a sexless marriage – stress.

This is because we’ve spent our lives being told that men are always in the mood for sex, and this is simply not true. Stress at work or home can leave men and women exhausted, making sleep or some other way to relax more appealing than sex.

Studies have found a link between stress and decreased sex drive. Talk to your partner about what’s causing them stress, and do what you can to help take some of the burdens off their shoulders.

Resentment can put a strain on intimacy

2. Low self-esteem

Self-esteem and body image issues don’t only affect women. No one is exempt from feeling down about themselves.

Low self-esteem can take a toll on a person’s relationships, particularly when it comes to physical intimacy, because it leads to inhibitions and, ultimately, to a sexless relationship.

If intimacy is missing in your marriage, cultivate the habit of complimenting and appreciating your partner.

Compliment your spouse and let them know that you find them attractive. You can help make them more comfortable by leaving the lights dim and staying under the covers.

Is your wife not interested in sex? Is the lack of intimacy in marriage from your husband eating away at your peace of mind? Be patient and do your part to resolve intimacy issues and help them feel loved and desired.

3. Rejection

Have you rejected your partner’s advances in the past? Perhaps you have been less than enthused when they tried to show you affection in or out of the bedroom.

These things can put your partner off of intimacy.

No one wants to feel as though their partner sees sex with them as a chore, and this is what can happen if you constantly put off sex or never initiate it.

Lack of sex in a relationship impairs a couple’s connection and leads to a slew of marital problems, including depression.

Living in a sexless marriage can make the partners feel unwanted, unattractive, and completely demotivated. Marriage becomes drudgery, and as a result, either one of the partners starts experiencing frustration and loses the motivation to devote energy to other important areas of life too.

If you are looking for tips on how to survive a sexless marriage or to overcome a lack of intimacy in marriage, it would be most helpful to consult a certified sex therapist who deals with intimacy problems.

Low self-esteem can take a toll on a person’s relationships

4. Resentment

Your partner may be feeling resentful.

Unresolved issues in your relationship can make them pull away and withdraw affectionately and emotionally. If there aren’t any glaring issues that you can think of, then consider whether or not your partner feels unappreciated or let down by the way you treat them.

The only way to get to the bottom of this is to talk openly about the relationship and try to resolve any issues that may strain intimacy.

5. Lack of non-physical intimacy

Intimacy missing in a marriage isn’t just about a lack of sex.

Your sex life can suffer if there’s a lack of emotional intimacy too. Feeling disconnected from your partner can make it hard to connect during sex or enjoy it. This isn’t only limited to women either; men crave emotional intimacy from their spouses too.

Spending quality time together can help build emotional intimacy and ultimately bring back physical intimacy. It is important for couples to understand why sex is important and how couples can use intimacy and sex as glue to maintain their love bond.

6. Become platonic partners over time

One of the reasons to explain why couples stop having sex is by taking a look at their day-to-day dynamics, as they may have turned platonic over time.

A married couple can get caught up in the day-to-day struggle of life, where they end up overlooking the sexual aspect of their relationship. They become versions of roommates or best friends that are leading their life together.

Have you rejected your partner’s advances in the past?

7. Exhaustion

No intimacy in relationships can be the result of physical or mental exhaustion that the couple might be facing. It can make one or both partners lack the motivation to have sex.

8. Boredom

Wondering when couples stop having sex? Possible when they stop trying new things in the bedroom.

Sex can become boring if you don’t constantly try things that can make it more fun, exciting and engaging. In the absence of new ways to enjoy sex with your partner, marital sex can become boring for some.

9. Lack of hygiene

When intimacy stops in a relationship, you can try to assess whether there has been a difference in hygiene maintenance by either you or your partner.

When two people are together for a long time, they may start taking things for granted, and that may include maintaining good hygiene. And therefore, bad hygiene can become the reason for their partner to lose interest in them sexually.

10. Form of payback or punishment

You may have to start worrying about the effects of lack of intimacy in a relationship if one or both partners end up withholding sex as a form of punishment for bad behavior by their partner. Some can use lack of sex to punish their partner over time, over disagreements, fights, or opposing opinions.

11. Health issues

One of the important reasons not to have sex can be based on health issues that impede one’s sexual abilities and desires. Hormonal imbalance and erectile dysfunction are some such reasons that can affect one’s ability to have sex.

12. Aging

Not having sex in relationships can also be attributed to age-related factors. One’s hormones and physicality may face certain limits as one gets older, and this can impact their sexual relations with their partner.
Some commonly asked questions

Here are some answers to some important questions related to couples not having sex that can help you understand things better:

Is it normal for couples to stop having sex?

It is normal for couples to go through various phases in their sex lives, some of which may be marked by a lack of or reduced sexual activity between them. However, things can get problematic if the lack of sex lasts for a long period of time without any hope for a better future.

Couples can consider meeting an expert for relationship counseling to help them sort out any sexual problems between them.

At what age do most couples stop having sex?

There is no set age by which couples stop having sex; however, studies conducted on the sexual frequency of people have concluded that usually that couples experience a decline with time.

What happens when a couple stops having sex?

If there is intimacy missing in your marriage, there will be cracks in your relationship, leading to potentially a permanent loss of emotional and verbal connection with your spouse.

Here are the other problems that can explain what happens when couples stop sleeping together:

  • Partners start withdrawing from each other
  • The rejected partner feels unloved and insecure
  • Chances of cheating on a spouse increase manifold
  • If intimacy issues persist, divorce becomes imminent

To fix a sexless marriage or overcome intimacy missing in your marriage, it is important to understand the causes of intimacy missing in the marriage.

Final thoughts

Things are not always what they seem.

Lack of sexual intimacy in marriage can stem from many things. Avoid jumping to conclusions and have a frank discussion with your partner without being accusatory. Don’t let a breakdown in intimacy create a lack of emotional connection, marital conflicts, relationship dissatisfaction, and bitterness in your marriage.

An unhappy marriage is not the best place to hang out with your partner. Learn how to fix and reignite the spark in your relationship, to strengthen the love bond with your significant other before little or no intimacy in marriage leads to marriage breakdown.

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Best Tips For Growing Intimacy In Marriage




Couples get married because they want to share their lives with the one they love in a very intimate way. As humans being, we wish to be unconditionally loved and always yearn to be close to our partners. When one thinks of intimacy, the mind immediately translates that to mean sexual intimacy. Of course, sexual intimacy in a marriage is extremely important (and a lack of it can destroy the marriage); but in time, all married couples realize that a sexual relationship is only one of the many myriad ways that they can experience being intimate with each other.

Emotional, intellectual & spiritual intimacy along with heart-to-heart dialogues are also significant methods of getting close with their spouse. Partners in love are the real architects, who can revolutionize their marriages, by making intimacy more personal and specific to them.

If you wish to enjoy better intimacy with your spouse, have a candid discussion with them about how you can make your love life more purposeful and emotional.

Create an atmosphere of love and closeness and let passion, care, affection freely flow in your marriage. Women, mostly, like to connect on a deeper emotional level.

For men, it can be the other way around. Be mindful of each other’s needs on a daily basis and forge a friendship that is unique and truly intimate.

Listening to romantic music together, holding hands, sharing feelings, taking a long walk and sharing a meal will all contribute in increasing love for each other in the marriage and create real intimacy.


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For couples: 4 importance of counselling before marriage




Counselling before marriage is also known as pre-marriage or pre-marital counselling and is essential for everybody whether in a relationship or not.

Pre-marital counselling is a type of therapy that helps couples prepare for marriage and the challenges, benefits and rules that comes with it.

Engaging in counselling before marriage helps to ensure that you and your partner have a strong, healthy, non-toxic relationship which gives you a better chance for a stable and satisfying marriage. It can also help you identify your individual weaknesses that could become problems during marriage and also tries to proffer a solution.

If you are planning to settle down with your partner or in a relationship, here are some benefits of counselling for you:

Helps in planning for the future

Premarital counsellors do more than just help couples talk through their current issues. They also help couples plan for the future. A counsellor can help couples set financial or family planning goals and can proffer them a way to accomplish those goals.

Discover new things about the couples themselves

Premarital therapy sessions give you the opportunity and freedom to discuss things that do not come up in normal conversations between you and your partner, like his or her dark secrets, hurtful past experiences, sex, and expectations. Marriage counsellors and therapists ask a lot of questions when they are working with couples that are considering long-term commitments such as marriage. Listening carefully to your partner’s answers is a great way to learn more about who you are about to commit to.

Builds up effective communication skills

There is no relationship without communication. And as it is known, one of the most important aspects of any marriage is having an effective communication with your partner. When a couple stops caring and stops talking to one another, the marriage will eventually lead to a divorce. Counseling can help you learn how to be a good listener and also how to talk to your partner; therefore you know how to talk to your partner and what the other person wants and needs. When you live with someone day in and day out, it is very easy to take each other for granted, but keeping an open line of communication and expressing love to one another builds a relationship that can withstand the test of time and any storm.

Enables couples to absorb the counsellors’ wisdom

Sharing issues with someone who has been married for a while is another big benefit of seeking pre-marriage counselling. When you talk to a marriage counsellor, you get a firsthand or primary voice of wisdom on the subject of marriage. Marriage counsellor gets to share their experiences and the sacrifices they’ve made to keep the marriage healthy.

Source: PulseGhana

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