In 2019, the CDC reported that women were 33% more likely to visit the doctor than men—but, let’s be honest, this is hardly a surprise. Every woman has seen this statistic in action when they ask their clearly ill husband, father, or male friend if he needs to get a checkup.
“I’m fine,” he’ll probably sniff stubbornly. “It’s nothing.”
But when it comes to sexual health, your husband can’t simply take some NyQuil and hope for the best. He should be visiting his doctor and asking important questions to keep himself healthy—in fact, he should be asking questions like these:
1. “What Is This Thing on My Penis/Scrotum?”
Your husband is very well aware of how his genitals look and feel, so when something’s not quite right, it can be cause for alarm. Of course, sometimes a bump or irritation is no big deal (for example, ingrown hairs can cause acne-like bumps on the penis), but other times they can spell big trouble.
2. “Can I Break My Penis?”
It may seem counterintuitive (since, you know, there are no bones), but men actually can break their penises. This is because the penis has a layer of fibrous connective tissue around it called the tunica albuginea. When that tissue rips during intercourse, the penis effectively “breaks”—and that is a medical emergency.
Men will want to know whether or not their “favorite organ” is at risk during sexual activity—but it’s even more important to recognize the signs of a broken penis. If your man experiences a loud, painful snap during sex, which is followed by losing his erection, go to the hospital IMMEDIATELY.
3. “Is Erectile Dysfunction Normal?”
This question can be a complicated one. If the man asking is under age 50, then the answer is no; the risk of erectile dysfunction (ED) for 50-year-olds and under is less than 5%. Erectile dysfunction becomes increasingly common as men age, but the stigma that accompanies it keeps men of all ages from asking their doctors about it.
If your man is struggling with ED, talking to his doctor is the first step toward regaining a fulfilling sex life. Additionally, ED can sometimes point to other issues, particularly in young men—for example, diabetes or hypertension. Talking to the doctor can be instrumental in preserving his health.
4. “Is a Curved Penis Normal?”
Peyronie’s disease is a condition in which scar tissue inside the penis causes it to curve. If the case is mild (AKA, if the curve is less than 30 degrees), there’s no real issue and your man can use his penis normally. However, if the curve is too great, it can cause pain during intercourse or conditions like ED.
Peyronie’s disease is rare in most young men, but it becomes more common as men reach their 30s and older. In fact, 4 out of 100 men between age 40 and 70 have some form of this condition. If your husband is noticing an increased curve in his penis, it’s important to have his doctor take a look and make sure it’s not too serious.
5. “Do Men Go Through Menopause?”
Menopause refers to the end of a woman’s fertility, marked by the end of her menstrual cycle. Obviously, men don’t go through this specific experience—but they do experience a drop in testosterone as they age. The process, known as androgen deficiency in the aging male (ADAM), starts as early as 45 or 50, but it becomes most notable after age 70.
If your man starts to experience fatigue, weakness, or a decrease in sexual desire, this drop in testosterone might be to blame. However, other issues could be at play as well—which is why it’s important to see a doctor for a thorough check-up.
What is orgasm?
When you get sexually aroused your vagina becomes wetter, which makes it smooth and slippery. With more stimulation, you could climax (orgasm).
When a man gets really turned on, he can have an orgasm – in other words, he can come, or climax.
Benefits of sexual intercourse during pregnancy
It’s strange and funny how so many people go on a long sex vacation when they get pregnant or abandon their wives when they get pregnant in terms of sex. The reasons or excuses are many but before I touch on the many misconceptions some have, I will like to encourage pregnant women who will like their husbands to have sex with them to also put in some effort to get them attracted.
Just because you are pregnant does not mean you shouldn’t take good care of yourself. Bath well and regularly because of the numerous hormones in your system due to the pregnancy. Dress well and look good but don’t stay down and look unattractive and expect your husband to come. Don’t keep saliva in your mouth for long otherwise, it can put your partner off.
When it comes to misconceptions that people have about sex during pregnancy, notable among them is that the semen will spill on the baby and might kill it. The penis might be hitting the baby’s head and affect it. The woman wouldn’t feel for sex during that stage. She will get pregnant again.
When a woman conceives, her cervix is closed. When she engages in sex, the semen cannot go through the cervix because there is also a mucus plug to prevent anything from entering. The penis cannot pass through the cervix into the womb. Most women rather feel for sex when they get pregnant. When a woman gets pregnant, the hormones prevent ovulation which is the release of the egg from the ovary. Imagine the disaster or the trouble of your husband or wife or your partner to wait throughout the 9 months plus delivery, to resume having sex with you. How many people will be able to wait till that period?
The only exception is when the doctor or midwife has indicated that sex can cause a problem for the pregnancy due to vaginal bleeding, repeated miscarriage, early labour treatment, or anything else that poses risk.
Now let us take a look at some of the benefits of having sex when pregnant.
1. Sex during pregnancy is a form of exercise for the lady. This also keeps her active and healthy because it burns out the calorie and keeps blood pressure in check.
2. Sexual intercourse can activate the feel-good hormones in the system. If the pregnant woman is happy, it makes the unborn happy because of their connection.
3. During pregnancy, it offers the couple or partners the opportunity to explore certain sex positions they may not have tried before. Sometimes you even later adopt those as your favourite even after delivery.
4. It creates a bond between the partners as the two people do not have to sexually fast for over 9 months. When sex continuous during pregnancy it doesn’t break the flow between them.
5. Sex is even more enjoyable during pregnancy especially for the woman because of the different hormones in her system and also the blood flow in her vulva.
6. During pregnancy, the woman experiences different hormones which can be very uncomfortable but sexual intercourse during pregnancy can help clear most of it as sex can make her sleep soundly.
7. Sex during pregnancy can make delivery easier, this is because the sperm is rich in a hormone known as prostaglandins which help in uterus contractions.
It is equally important to say that not every pregnant woman feels like having sex. Respect the decision of the woman if she doesn’t feel for it or not comfortable with having sex.
Care needs to be taken so as not to contract any sexually Transmitted Infections as this can also affect the unborn if care is not taken.
Sex during pregnancy is not harmful and can happen throughout the nine-month or the pregnancy period unless the doctor has said otherwise.
By Cons. Michael Tagoe
Good sexual intercourse lasts minutes, not hours, therapists say
Erie, Pa. — Satisfactory sexual intercourse for couples lasts from three to 13 minutes, contrary to popular fantasy about the need for hours of sexual activity, according to a survey of U.S. and Canadian sex therapists.
Penn State Erie researchers Eric Corty and Jenay Guardiani conducted a survey of 50 full members of the Society for Sex Therapy and Research, which include psychologists, physicians, social workers, marriage/family therapists and nurses who have collectively seen thousands of patients over several decades.
Thirty-four, or 68 percent, of the group responded and rated a range of time amounts for sexual intercourse, from penetration of the vagina by the penis until ejaculation, that they considered adequate, desirable, too short and too long.
The average therapists’ responses defined the ranges of intercourse activity times: “adequate,” from three to seven minutes; “desirable,” from seven to 13 minutes; “too short” from one to two minutes; and “too long” from 10 to 30 minutes.
“A man’s or woman’s interpretation of his or her sexual functioning as well as the partner’s relies on personal beliefs developed in part from society’s messages, formal and informal,” the researchers said. “Unfortunately, today’s popular culture has reinforced stereotypes about sexual activity. Many men and women seem to believe the fantasy model of large penises, rock-hard erections and all-night-long intercourse. ”
Past research has found that a large percentage of men and women who responded wanted sex to last 30 minutes or longer.
“This seems a situation ripe for disappointment and dissatisfaction,” said lead author Eric Corty, associate professor of psychology. “With this survey, we hope to dispel such fantasies and encourage men and women with realistic data about acceptable sexual intercourse, thus preventing sexual disappointments and dysfunctions.”
Corty and Guardiani, then an undergraduate student and now a University graduate, are publishing their findings in the May issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine, but the article is currently available online.
The survey’s research also has implications for treatment of people with existing sexual problems.
“If a patient is concerned about how long intercourse should last, these data can help shift the patient away from a concern about physical disorders and to be initially treated with counseling, instead of medicine,” Corty noted.